How to Prepare for Pregnancy and Birth Together with Your Partner

The news of a new addition to the family is usually a source of great joy for parents and their loved ones. However, it can also bring some stress. Planning the different stages of pregnancy can help manage this stress, as it gives a sense of control over the situation. With this in mind, we’ve created a short guide to advise you on how to prepare for pregnancy and birth together with your partner. It covers not only pregnancy nutrition, baby essentials, and antenatal classes, but also other important aspects to help you feel ready for this exciting journey. 

Conversations, Genetic Testing, and Pregnancy Diet – Work Together with Your Partner 

The first step, even before trying to conceive, should be an open conversation with your partner. This discussion doesn’t have to focus solely on the readiness to expand your family, but also on any concerns, expectations, and long-term plans, such as maternity or paternity leave. It’s also important to talk about your financial situation and how to prepare for the changes ahead. 

Before pregnancy, it’s worth considering genetic testing, especially if there is a family history of genetic conditions. It’s equally important to undergo a basic health check-up and, of course, a pre-pregnancy visit to the gynaecologist is essential. 

While most people are aware of the importance of a healthy diet during pregnancy, it’s actually a good idea to start eating well a few weeks before trying to conceive. This isn’t just important for the woman but for the man as well, as a balanced diet can improve sperm quality. Both partners should also aim to quit unhealthy habits, such as smoking or excessive alcohol consumption. As for supplements, it’s best to consult a doctor and have any deficiencies checked beforehand. 

Before trying to conceive, it’s also a good idea to visit the dentist and check the condition of your teeth. Tooth decay can negatively affect pregnancy, and in severe cases, it can even lead to miscarriage. Additionally, many women experience morning sickness in the first trimester, which can worsen the health of their teeth, making regular dental check-ups even more important. 

Antenatal Classes – How You and Your Partner Can Prepare for Birth Together 

Once you're pregnant, it’s worth considering antenatal classes with your partner. The best time to start these sessions is in the second trimester. During the classes, you’ll learn about labour, breastfeeding, postnatal recovery, baby care, and even emergency first aid. These classes also offer practical knowledge, such as breathing exercises, which will be helpful during labour. 

It’s important to attend these classes together, as the information you both gain will help boost your confidence and reduce stress. If circumstances don’t allow for attending in person, you can consider online antenatal classes. Whether in-person or online, these courses are usually offered by private providers and are often paid for, though some may be covered by the NHS. 

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Birth Plan and Choosing a Hospital 

At the start of your third trimester, it’s a good idea to choose the hospital where you'd like to give birth and to write a birth plan. When selecting a hospital, consider its distance from your home, ease of access, reviews of the maternity unit, and whether your pregnancy is progressing normally or if specialist equipment might be required. 

Writing a birth plan can help manage stress and give you the chance to think about possible solutions to any challenges, such as listing all available pain relief options. This way, you won’t be left wondering in the moment what might help with discomfort. In your birth plan, include details like whether you’ll have a birth partner with you, whether you consent to receiving oxytocin, the positions you'd prefer for labour, and whether you’re okay with an episiotomy. You can find sample birth plans online to guide you. 

Remember, though, that labour can be unpredictable, and things may not go exactly as planned. It’s important to stay flexible—the birth plan should guide your preferences, but it’s not set in stone. Being open to adjustments will help you feel more at ease. 

Newborn Hospital Bag Essentials 

It’s a good idea to pack your newborn’s hospital bag ahead of time, just in case your baby decides to arrive a little earlier than expected. The most important items for your baby’s hospital bag include: documents and medical records (these are essential!), disposable nappies, cotton muslin cloths, a few freshly washed and ironed outfits (depending on the season), baby wipes, maternity bed pads, a baby wrap or blanket and nappy cream to prevent rashes 

Additionally, you can ask friends or check online forums for other useful items that might make your hospital stay more comfortable and convenient. 

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Expert Consultation: Karolina Wyrembek-Urban – Midwife, Lactation Coach